Wednesday, June 24, 2015

Top 5 Ways to Destroy Writing Motivation

The perfect writing method: as of yet, no one has been able to find it, though the world would probably implode if an author ever found the key to churning out thousands upon thousands of words crafted from pure gold without any effort. Don’t let books like “Writing for Dummies” fool you – you can no more learn everything there is about the writing craft from reading one book than you can expect to become an expert in advanced physics by learning basic arithmetic.

But, on the other hand, do we know enough DON’Ts to help guide us towards a better collection of DOs? Sadly, yes. Any writer can give you a long list of things that they have tried and found to be failures. Writers are as varied as the techniques they employ, and yet the things we find ourselves doing to our detriment are usually similar across the board. Here are the top five that I have come across that do more damage to a writer’s motivation and confidence than any other.



1. Expecting Perfection in the First Draft

Too often writers get blocked because they are afraid that what they write won’t be any good. It’s an honest fear. We all want to be the best we can be, and when we have hyper-critical views of our own skills and talents, those can quickly get in the way of our productivity. Fear slows you down gradually until at last you find you can’t bear to put down a single word on the page because it will be wrong.

Wrong according to whom?

First drafts are not supposed to be perfect. They often aren’t even that great. But if you sit around worrying about whether or not the first draft will be publishable at the start, you won’t finish the first draft at all – and a book that isn’t written isn’t publishable to begin with!

Blogger KRTGRPHR reminded me last week that “no one need ever see the first draft. Or the hundredth. Or any other. The only thing that anyone else sees is the final version.” And that’s the magic of writing. You can revise, you can edit, you can re-write if necessary. We forget the difficult process of writing when we read a finished product and deceive ourselves into believing that the author responsible just poured out this complete and polished work on their first try.

It’s just frankly not true. We all have to start with the outline, the character bios, the unconnected ideas and plot flaws. You have to let yourself grow through the process. As many other writers have put it, you have to give yourself permission to suck.

Having a rough draft doesn’t make you a bad writer, it makes you a writer. And the rough draft won’t write itself! Besides, that first attempt at getting the words on the page is not set in stone. Even if this story isn’t what puts you on the map as an author, you have many more stories ahead of you that will continue to hone your skills. David Kadavy, a best-selling technology author, points out that “If you find a way to be okay with sucking for a short time, you’ll have a whole lifetime to enjoy not sucking at that thing.”

Take a deep breath. Understand deep down that whatever your write, it’s a great start! And then get on with it.


2. Writing Only When You “Feel It”

I used to be one of those writers who felt it was detrimental to my writing technique to force the craft. I had seen time and again that whenever I sat down and wrote when I didn’t “feel like it”, the result was too often very poor. I began to associate a specific state of mind with proper writing.

No surprise that the less I wrote, the less often I felt this dying urge to write. I blocked myself into a corner of practically never writing at all. And the guiltier I felt about not writing, the harder it was to bring myself to write. Like a snake eating its tail.

I found an article last week, titled “On Writing” (author quoted above) that really hit this problem home with me. The author shared my exact feelings and had been in the exact place that I had been festering in for years. Describing his writing habits, he wrote, “It took an unfathomable time, and effort, between recharges – to build up enough misery and self-loathing because of not writing, just so I could overcome the fear and misery and self-loathing that had prevented the writing in the first place.”

I wish I could say that this part of my life is years behind me. But in reality, I finally broke out of this foolishness…last week.

This article reminded me that writing is horribly difficult, and without the proper force, nigh-impossible to do. This is why many successful authors set strict writing schedules for themselves. This is why many writers adhere to the “Write Every Day” philosophy.

Whatever your particular diet of writing may be, it is the same for everyone – “You have to force yourself to write. There is no other way to do it. You could wait days, weeks, an entire decade – for that fully formed, perfect prose to appear.”

Words that haven’t been committed to the page yet cannot be improved upon. And believe me, the longer you go without writing, the harder it is to get back into any significant habit at all. I finally sat down and forced myself to write the other day, and I wrote four whole pages. I remember thinking, Dude, woah! It had been quite a while since I had been able to chug out that much content in one sitting. And that’s a very small amount, in the grand scheme of things.

But the more I do it, I imagine the faster I will be. It’s like running a marathon. You can’t get better by sitting on your couch. Just so, you can’t write 20,000 words a day if the last major piece you wrote was a grocery list.


3. Internalizing Criticism

Another thing that writers can be suckered into doing is internalizing the criticism of their work. We take it far too personally when another person has issues with what we have written, as if the suggested changes are actually an attack on our very selves.

I’ll just say it plainly: stop it.

First, you are not your work. You are the master of your work. You have the power to separate yourself from your ‘baby’ and analyze it rationally. If you are so emotionally attached to it that you can’t bear to change a single word, then you need to step back and tackle something else for a while. When an outside eye gives you a critique, they are not telling you that you are a bad person or a bad writer. They are proposing a change for a malleable, ever-growing entity. Altering a character here or a shift of phrase there won’t lessen you as a writer. Rather, listening to others’ opinions and judging whether or not they are useful will strengthen you.

Second, clinging to your work as if you are protecting a toddler from the jaws of death is just unattractive. The people providing you feedback are people, not bears. Don’t treat them like bears.

Taking critique personally can crush your motivation to write. The writing world can be harsh, and we have to learn to survive the storms gracefully. Put aside your gut, emotional reaction and listen to what it being said. It will probably be useful!


4. Never Sharing Your Work

If you are afraid of criticism, or you have a low opinion of your writing style, you may be tempted to keep everything to yourself. Who wants to read this stuff anyway? Unfortunately, this only breeds paranoia and ultimately kills your writing. If you are so afraid to share your work with even people close to you, how are you ever going to submit it for publication?

You should be sharing your writing as often as you can. You don’t need to distribute it widely – a few people who you trust to evaluate your work fairly will suffice. Not only will you receive constructive and educational feedback, but also you are more likely to be praised! Everyone needs a pat on the back for doing something well now and again. And, if you believe that writing is an expression of ego (as many people say), you have to admit that writers *really* need that ego boost to support the constant expressing of our deepest selves. It’s exhausting!

If you hoard your work to yourself because you are afraid of how bad it might be, you will never receive any comments to the contrary. The only opinion you will have is your own, and the negativity will eventually convince you that you should just give up.

Instead, seek out the opinion of others. Let other writers build you up by making suggestions where you can improve and praising what you are already doing well. Don’t hide!


5. Idolizing the Genre

Last but not least is the anxiety that can be built up by seeing what other writers in your genre are doing. A well-read author will always do better by keeping up with what is current in their particular publishing niche. What you have to try and avoid is succumbing to the idea that you don’t belong among the ranks of published authors.

If you idolize your peers and the body of work that has come before you, you can very easily begin to believe that you will never be that good and can never come up with an idea original enough to compete. Why even bother trying to write when it’s already been done before better than you could do it, right?

Wrong. Don’t let that train of thought take over for even one second. The easiest way to vanish among the crowd is to never enter the crowd to begin with. You don’t know that your novel or short-story or collection of poetry won’t revolutionize the genre until you write it and get it published.



In other words, writers, don’t defeat yourself before you’ve even begun! As always, keep reading, keep writing. Leave me a comment or an email – what motivation killers have you struggled with before, and how did you overcome them?


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